Filling the Void (with Chocolate?)

This post is dedicated to my like-a-sister friend LaNae. This is a personal experience she shared with me several years ago and allowed me to share. LaNae is such a great example to me of how to love. I am also always amazed at her ability to speak with God and hear His answers and counsel. I think it's one of her many gifts. This particular experience was one where God taught her what she needed to do to fill the emptiness she was feeling inside. LaNae and her husband had always had a strong, healthy relationship. But she had been feeling empty inside, and thought she needed more of his attention and affection. He usually came home from work for lunch. One particular day, in an attempt to win his affection and fill her void with his love and adoration, she made his favorite lunch. She carefully set an elegant table for two, complete with clean table cloth, flowers, and his favorite dishes (yes this man loves dishes!). She eagerly primped and groomed to look her very best before he arrived home. He was very pleased by the delicious meal, the beautifully set table, and a beautiful wife with whom to eat his lunch. They enjoyed their lunch together. Then he thanked her for the lovely meal, gave her a kiss, and headed back to work. She was severely disappointed. She still felt empty. Why hadn’t he made her happy? Why hadn’t she received the love that she was so desperately seeking? Her initial thought was to fill the void with temporary happiness—chocolate! There was a Snickers in the cupboard that began screaming her name. Instead she went to the quiet of her bedroom and knelt in prayer. She told her Heavenly Father how disappointed she was that her husband was not giving her the love that she so desperately hungered for. She asked Heavenly Father what more she could do. Then the warmth of the Spirit overcame her as these words filled her mind and heart, “It is my love you need. Let me fill you with my love.” She realized that it was not her husband’s responsibility to fill the void she had inside. Rather it was her responsibility to turn to her Heavenly Father for the love that He is both willing and eager to give, if we would but receive. She realized that when she receives God's love, not only is she filled, but she is better able to give and love others. What are we seeking to fill the void? Quick, easy happiness? Television? Food? Work? Or any number of addictions? Are those things filling us with joy? Where is true joy and happiness to be found? In Lehi’s vision he “beheld a tree, whose fruit was desirable to make one happy.”(1 Nephi 8:10) “And as I partook of the fruit thereof it filled my soul with exceedingly great joy; wherefore, I began to be desirous that my family should partake of it also; for I knew that it was desirable above all other fruit.” (1 Nephi 8:12) What does the fruit in Lehi’s dream represent? The Love of God. Therefore the Love of God is desirable to make one happy. The Love of God filled Lehi’s soul with exceedingly great joy, and he knew that the Love of God was desirable above all other fruit. This has become a very favorite scipture: Draw near unto me and I will draw near unto you; seek me diligently and ye shall find me; ask, and ye shall receive; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. (Doctrine and Covenants 88:63) By drawing near unto God, we feel His love, and no longer have a need to fill a void, because we are filled with His love. It takes daily effort, but the time investment is far outweighed by the blessings received. And behold, and lo, I am with the faithful always. Even so. Amen. (Doctrine and Covenants 62:99)